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There will always be times in your life when you have to perform tasks that you deem unpleasant for one reason or another – working with a co-worker you don’t like, going to work on Mondays, taking the garbage out, driving to meet the in-laws at the airport, having dinner with the spouse’s friends… Doing these things just siphons whatever motivation you have inside you and makes you feel sad, tired, sorry, even annoyed.  But did you know that there are also things inside you that actually make it difficult to feel excited and enthusiastic?  Get to learn the factors that make you hard to motivate:
Your mindset
Your mindset is a major factor that can make you hard to motivate.  This is because it can severely limit your understanding of the world and all experiences in general.  Your mindset can sometimes be composed of growth-inhibiting beliefs, prejudices, biases and standards.
If, for example, you believe that nothing good can come out of your staff, you’ll fail to see that there is a clerk there that actually has management potential.  If you refuse to believe that you can actually write for a famous magazine because you’re a person from a small town, you’ll miss out on an opportunity to expose your talent and reap its rewards.
Your comfort zone
We all have certain limitations in our minds.  These limits are things we decide on based on our own personal beliefs, ethics and standards.  Within these limits, we feel comfortable in and can pretty much do as we like.
Once we approach the outer edges, we begin to feel discomfort, shyness, embarrassment or annoyance.  We do not wish to go further because we do not like what we don’t know or haven’t experienced.  Because we have a fear of the unknown, we’d rather stay within our comfort zones because we feel safe there.
The problem here is that a narrow comfort zone can be a major factor that makes you hard to motivate.  Each time you are presented with a new idea or experience, you check to see if it fits into your comfort zone.  If it doesn’t, then you simply refuse, no questions asked.  This is unfortunate because many of these ideas and experiences can be good for you.  But you’ll probably never know because you don’t have the motivation to try them.
Your past experience
Did you get burned by the stove?  That’s probably why you hate to cook.  Did your former bosses fail to show appreciation for your hard work?  That’s probably one reason why you don’t feel motivated about your job.

Your background
personal, social and professional experiences – has a lot to do with how you decide things in your life.  They can also be factors that make you hard to motivate.  If these experiences are negative, they tend to make you more hesitant and unsure of yourself because they affect your self-esteem and confidence.
If, for example, you’ve only been met with rejection or ridicule in your life, it wouldn’t be hard to imagine if you don’t feel a strong need to excel or to improve yourself.  You’ll probably be thinking – ‘So what?  Nothing I ever did was good anyway.  Why would things change now?’
Unless you consciously make an effort to identify these past experiences and then refuse to let them rule your life, you will always be hard to motivate.


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I am going to ask you to perform something very unusual right now. First of all, I need you to pay attention to your thoughts. Now inform me, what thoughts permeate your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let’s state you are walking down the road with these thoughts. Do you feel anyone who would bump into you would be able to tell you what’s in your thoughts?

The solution to number one is up to you. But, the response to number two can be pretty generic. Although persons will not be able to tell you accurately what you believe, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here’s a further question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind. Thoughts are very deep. They shape your general way of behaving. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – save, of course, if you are a great actor. And it doesn’t finish there. Your attitude can also have an effect on people around you. The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly stimulating. In addition, the people in the vicinity of the person carrying positive thoughts are generally energized by this kind of attitude.
Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping consequence on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a merry gathering into a funeral wake. A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who have a negative attitude.

We can furthermore define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you decide to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. Nevertheless, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more apt to carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to deal with stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are fulfilled, confident, and self-assured, you also make others around you feel the same way.
A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to bring forward healthy thoughts. This is probably very challenging to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is beyond doubt a saddening thought.

If you would like a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is not viable to keep ourselves from all the negative things around us, you can still have a positive attitude by focusing on the decent things, the positive things in life. And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Every now and then when other people feel low, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and pay attention to them. If you have a positive attitude you may possibly be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude as an alternative? One who carries a negative attitude may be in fact sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling miserable, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either.

As always, if you are overwhelmed by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have optimism. Problems become something you can overcome. You do not have much to leave behind by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude in fact retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what’s not to enjoy about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

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